Relationship Problems: Signs of a Difficult Husband

Marriage can be a difficult for some couples where the control in the relationship is maintained by one person.
With overbearing husbands, the root cause of this behavior is often down to his feelings of jealousy and insecurity.
In the husband’s reasoning, behaving in an overbearing way maintains control of his partner:

• - The marriage exists based on his values and opinions.
• - He has control over all the decision-making and all the power.
• - Criticizing his partner gives him a false sense of superiority, control.

For the recipient of this type of overbearing behavior, it can create a sense of feeling trapped in your circumstances, or feeling intimidated, or feeling like you are suffocating. If you are married to an overbearing husband who begins to isolate you from your friends and family, you can feel even more trapped, and at the mercy of his jealousy and insecurity.

• How Can You Fix Things?

If your husband begins to isolate you from your friends and family it may be an option to suggest marital guidance counseling. If you approach this option, take great care to be gentle when introducing the subject into conversation in order to avoid an explosive and angry outburst from him in response. To begin with, speak with your pastor or reverend at Church.

• Allow your partner to evaluate his behavior. He may be acting in an overbearing way out of loneliness, or out of low self-esteem. Some men were raised by overbearing mothers, and believe this is how to behave in a relationship. There are many ways he can improve his self-esteem, and you can add to this by paying more attention to him, and encouraging him to try new things. Instead, take some time to rebuild the romance in your lives.

First of all, listen more than you talk. This way, your husband feels ‘heard’ and of value, which both add to his feelings of self-worth.

• Next, remember to do the things your husband likes. If he likes it when you buy him gifts continue to do so. If he likes it when you go to watch a game, continue to accompany him. This shows that you pay attention to his wants and needs.

• Get the relationship back on a fun-filled setting. Often, relationships can become too serious. Focus on enjoying each others’ company again. Make an extra effort with your hair and style of clothing to make him recall how excited he was when you first met each other. Rekindle the romance between you, and watch your husband ease off the need to control everything you do. continue below..
• It may take a long time, but if you start off slowly and gradually work up to this point, the hard work will reap rewards.

When it comes to relationships, breaking up because of an overbearing husband is difficult because you have emotionally invested so much in the other person. Given time to work on the issues behind overbearing behavior there is a realistic chance of creating the type of happy successful partnership that real marriages are based on....