A marriage can only survive on the alter of sincerity but, sadly you can't get the truth from cheap people. It has been observed that some ladies are liars and in some instance greedy to a fault. If you are not true to yourself then it would be difficult for you to be true to the man who want to marry you.
This is the dilemma many ladies find themselves today. Our men always have their eyes on many ladies and in Africa it is not a crime to have more than one woman. For your man to discipline himself and be ready to stay with you sincerely, you need to feed him with truth and confidence, always.
Below are some of the things I see affecting our young ladies:
Our ladies end up single or chased out by their husband due to too much media exposure -
It is disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on her mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up and focus on television to watch fake celebrity entertainment. Tell me, what else will dominate the mindset of such ladies aside how to live the fake lifestyles they see on social media and TV?
Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores -
Because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to American media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way, our ladies are loosing their place in their husband's heart. African family setting is unique and that is why previous African marriages last longer and envious to the whites.
With this attitude, how do you expect an African man to desire to marry you who claim to be a modern lady when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?
You Don’t Bring Value Into The Life Of The Man You Marry or Are Dating -
Your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to.
Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope... be a good wife, respectful, stay away from your mother or friends evil counsels, and above all be his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support.
Your Mother and Friends Run Your Life -
How do you expect your husband or the man you are dating to trust you when you still allow your mum and clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and which is not?
When will you wake up and face the fact that some of your so called best friends may not want you to marry the best man and that your own mother may just be destroying your life for her selfish reason?
Lack of Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing -
Your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’ looks will win you men; both the good and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether a man would marry you and, most importantly, keep you in his house as a cherished wife.
Ladies, to achieve this, do away with being possessive, challenging your man, manipulating him for selfish purpose. A decent man will love you, once you prove yourself worthy as a responsible lady.
Do not allow yourself to become a victim while trying to be too smart. Be humble, reap a good reward!
by Mrs Daramola
Credit: by Olu Famous
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